“Why do we fall? It’s so that we can learn to get back up.”
I was rewatching the Christopher Nolan Batman series, a pick-me-up because a few things went haywire in different circles of my life just and it all got too much.
I took a much needed break from everything to ensure that I could get myself back on track and focused on the things that were most important to me. Having recently read about another blogger’s struggle (fear?) of being real, I too, took up the courage to be more authentic on this blog. And sometimes, just like in life, I don’t quite get it right. I have very high expectations of myself and those around me and if left unchecked, can grow into a beast that becomes untamable.
The fascinating thing I have noticed, is that the only way I have ever tamed this beast is through discipline. Discipline of mind, discipline of body and discipline of soul. In the last few months, I somehow allowed others to take away this pillar and the results were self destructing. Once I realised what was causing all this trouble and acknowledged what needed to be done, I took the decision that was best for me to stop it from spreading. Such moments are never easy and the fallout from it can be long lasting. But choosing to stay in a place just to meet other people’s expectations is never a good thing. For anyone.
My growth opportunity is for me to learn to say “No” more often. Heck, when I had my pillar of discipline, I knew what I wanted, what I needed to do to get to it, how I was going to get there and what I had to give up in order to get there. Interestingly, when the pillar went away, I said “Yes” to everything. Ironically, this isn’t the best strategy. In a way, you will never get to do or go to everything on your “want” list. However, when you choose those things that are most important to you to accomplish, you are inadvertantly saying no to a few things. Heck, the other item I learned on this journey is not to say ‘I don’t have time for this’ but rather, ‘It’s not a priority for me right now’. And oh how the guilt just melts away. I find it fascinating the way language can change the way we think, feel and behave.
So here’s to getting back on track and never giving up and doing what I do best.
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Heck, the other item I learned on this journey is not to say ‘I don’t have time for this’ but rather, ‘It’s not a priority for me right now’.
That’s such a good point, I’ve never really thought about it like that… I always feel guilty saying no to things, but you’re 100% right – it’s not necessarily saying no, it’s about priorities! Good on you Nigel, lots of respect for this post 🙂
Thanks Jess. Experience is the best teacher. It gives you the test first and lesson second.
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